Thursday, November 21, 2013

Creating Emotional Freedom A Battle That Does Not Have To Be!


            Creating emotional  freedom is a constant battle. In walking through the journey of the past year, I have discovered that there is nothing one can do to change people and their patterns. One must be willing to help themselves. In my willingness to help others I find that this has been the case for everything. I find that this seems to involve developing a sense of emotional separation. Especially for health care professionals. One must establish emotional boundaries and ensure that the difference between one's personal emotions and the emotions of others around you. This means that one is able then separate and  gain a greater personal relationships as well as accepting responsibility, and being less likely seek and attract codependent relationships with others. As I enjoy helping others as many individuals do, one must learn when too much is too much and how to break a cycle of emotions.

            I have noticed that there are often times when one holds an image of  emotions and their expectations. As one should be able to break free from this pattern as there is no certain way that one should think or feel or even act. Individualism is a very important when it comes to creating a set of emotions that pertain to each individual. We as individuals must eliminate the image of expectations. This is simply not reality and being true to one's self.  Just because as a society we believe that having a great emotional health means that one is positive all the time it is not the case all the time. This is not reality and can be very unhealthy. Instead, one should allow themselves to feel how they want to feel at any given time without labeling, analyzing or assigning a negative or positive value to your emotions.

         Oftentimes, we have we have not become comfortable with showing emotions. However, it is a good technique to learn to identify the emotions and experience them as they come to you. We have to identify emotions besides the  normal emotions that we name them as. As we often carry a limited vocabulary when it comes to emotions such as,sad,happy and angry. If you further identify the emotions such as I may be angry yet it is actually disappointment. There are over a hundred different emotions. Taking the time to identify individualism and self-awareness for these emotions is very helpful. Expressing yourself is the process to mature and confident communication. For example, stating emotions in the following statements differently can effect an outcome of communication;
  • "You made me mad"
  • "I am angry"
          These two statements can have different end results as the first one can place blame and create the consequence of a complete shutdown. It then reduces efforts of further communication.  The second statement eliminates the blame of the conversation and opens the door to further communication in a civil and mature manner. However, one must be extremely cautious as to the intentions behind the statements as well. Note that the communication is not to have expectations that the other person will soothe or make one feel better. However, the communication is to be able to express and be able to soothe ones self.

          Upon learning to express your emotions and allowing yourself the ability to express your emotions within yourself, it will then become easier to separate ones self from the emotional experiences around you. Allow others to be expressive of their emotions around you as well. Everyone has thier own way of being expressive. Once you are able to place boundaries you will then be able to see other people's emotions and not hold yourself accountable for them as a end result.
This will then help with healthier relationships and more expressive communications.

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